Telling your kids about dating after divorce east eurpoean dating
My own story is that I also divorced and have 2 boys ages 8 and 12. When we left my verbally abusive husband, my oldest son cried that he never wanted to see him again and wanted God to bring him a new daddy.So when I met what I thought was the perfect new daddy, both my boys protested that they didn't want me to date anyone.Right now we have a great situation where we all communicate well with each other and live well together. I have cared for kids in our child care whose parents divorced while in my care. My friend did not let her dates meet her children until they were in a serious relationship because she didn't want men coming in and out of her three children's lives. I've been divorced for 15 years and re-married my high school sweetheart just two years after my divorce.As long as the parents don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend, the kids really think that their parents will get back together. I suggest reading books from the library about this topic which is very common. My daughter is now graduating from HS and tells me that she still has a secret wish that she had one family.Of course now that I'm in my 40's I look back and know it was selfish, but those were very real feelings that affected the rest of my life.I'm not sure that I was the most selfish in the situation.It is only a few years out of my life, but it will make a huge difference in their emotional health.
No matter how much I told them I am still their mom, no matter what, and they come first, etc.They know and love the man, but they were seriously upset.so I made the decision that I will not date until they are out of the house (18) or they change their minds.She's not even with the one that caused the divorce anymore. Sometimes white lies or lies by omission are a good thing.When and if something becomes really really really serious with a guy, like after a two or three years, and you know you guys are going to get married, you can start introducing him then.