We were both many years out post diagnosis when we found each other. We take care of each other and have friends/family on standby to help if need be.Unfortunately when I started dating my boyfriend I was also just getting my diagnosis but luckily he was helpful he has told me it is hard to deal with sometimes but I don’t know what I would of done without his help as we were at school which is very far away from home.You are so much more than a screwed up autonomic nervous system, and I guarantee you that if that’s what consumes your identity it will turn people off.I think all these advice are good, but the majority of us POTSies are ladies, and OP being a male makes the scenario and odds different here, not saying impossible by all means, but different.
2 weeks after we met I ended up hospitalized for a full week, and I thought that would be the end of him.
Male finding someone who is ok with their illness is very possible, but someone willing to take care of them is rather doubtful, depends on the extent of the illness as well surely. If you want to raise your odds I don't believe looking for someone who is willing to take care of you will get you a female partner (assuming you're looking for a female), however there are lots of female in a situation similar to op making them much compatible. Not sure I have any advice for you other than to say you're not alone in feeling this way.
Someone else mentioned /r/u4u which I definitely second. I've been struggling with how to date while ill for years since receiving my first diagnosis at 17.
I'd rather he bail early and show me his true colors.
His logic was it's better to announce that sooner rather than later because most women bailed quickly or tried to "fix" his kidney disease with diets/essential oils/herbs that ultimately screwed with the transplant.
But I've yet to date anyone who's accepted me after I've had a massive health flare.