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The Observer recently caught up with one of the industry’s rising stars, London-based Hayley Quinn, and we met her at an inflection point where she has realized her industry is actually undermining people at their weakest.“I’m really developing my whole business model to step outside of the usual dating and coaching business,” she said in a borrowed luxury apartment on the Bowery, during her New York City stop on a nationwide press tour alongside Skirt Club, a company that organizes social events for bisexual and bi-curious women. It doesn’t deliver anything helpful to anyone.”We can’t argue: it’s gotten out of hand out there.Apparently, Netflix is a signifier of commitment, people are matching based solely on faces and online daters are all dropping mad cash just to get rejected.“Coaching was the primary driver of my business, and I still really enjoy it, but because you are obviously selling the hours, your physical time, it gets really tiring,” she said.She makes videos more with an eye to her larger brand than to sales.We’ll all get to see this year.“I’m really redesigning my whole content strategy in 2016,” Ms. Intentionally or not, she believes the industry is undermining humanity, even people who don’t use dating coaches.“And I know this because I have been involved in the whole dating and pickup industry for a long time, so I can see from the inside how actually lots of things are not helpful,” she said.
While You Tube has been a godsend for homeowners who have never replaced the blade on a chainsaw, if you’re on You Tube sorting out your love life it’s likely because your friends are tired of hearing about it or you’re embarrassed to admit some of the ill-advised lengths to which you’ve gone. Many dating experts use You Tube to sell the lovelorn on their unique philosophies for curing what ails them.“I think a lot of the time particularly with women, they do not benefit us at all.”‘It’s almost like the whole thing is wrong from the start’“With this awareness, I’ve been changing the brand gradually, but it’s going to go 100 percent in 2016,” she said. I think a lot of stuff men don’t get a great ride with a lot of the information out there.”The 29 year-old wants to help women not only make the right moves, but for better reasons.For example, she says it’s right that ladies shouldn’t eagerly text a guy, but not because they don’t want to seem desperate.‘It’s about not positioning him as the prize,’ she says. ‘Women challenge patriarchal or sexist practices in many other areas of our lives but we’re failing to look at love and dating through that mechanism.‘Advice like “don’t approach him, don’t respond to his messages quickly, don’t tell him that you’re looking for a serious relationship, don’t be needy” is so 2006. ‘When you do, you start thinking about what it means to you to select a partner who is good for you rather than randomly “winning” any man who will accept you.’ ‘Probably the first dating Bible was the female equivalent of The Game [a male pick-up artist story], which was called The Rules. ‘There’s harassment and then there’s approaching people in a way that’s respectful.
She said that she’s beginning to believe what other people using the site have told her, that collaborations are the heart of You Tube.